Men in general think that they’re nice guys
but some of them are not. Ask a disgruntled woman
and she will give you a whole list of names
Men and Women are wired differently
“Some say the way men
look at himself in the mirror will tell if he can ever care
about anyone else. Maybe there’s some truth to that too.
Women look in the mirror for a quick touch up of ‘war-paint’
before they leave for work and for home. But a friend of
mine said she not only sees a reflection of herself, she
see her inner feelings and emotions, personal longings and
suppressed desires”
Last week my eldest daughter asked me to check her speech
for her public speaking class. Normally for these classes,
the topics would be ‘normal’ and boring but when I looked
at the title, it intrigued me. It was about fun facts about
men and women.
She had apparently done her research from the internet and
in secondary school its fine with the teachers as plagiarism
is not an issue.
Let me just share with you what she found out and let’s
see if I can even out the odds.
When it comes to clothes, women get frustrated very fast.
When she tries on clothing from the closet that feels tight,
she will assume that she has gained weight. When men find
tight attire, he assumes that the clothing has shrunk.
Men also have an easier time buying bathing suits. Women
have 2 types: depressing and more depressing. Men have 2
types: nerdy and not nerdy.
Women take clothing much more seriously than men. Rarely
does a man walk into a party and say “Oh, My Gosh! I’m so
embarrassed get me out of here. There’s another man wearing
a black tuxedo”. Women on the other hand cannot be seen
wearing a similar outfit with other women or worse if the
motives match the curtains!
When it comes to memory, women are said to have better memory
than men. Women remember everything, what you said, what
you do, even things you said in the heat of an argument
that you cannot remember, she can. Men forget everything,
maybe that’s why men need instant replays in sports. They’ve
already forgotten what happened.
Some say the way men look at himself in the mirror will
tell if he can ever care about anyone else. Maybe there’s
some truth to that too. Women look in the mirror for a quick
touch up of ‘war-paint’ before they leave for work and for
home. But a friend of mine said she not only sees a reflection
of herself, she see her inner feelings and emotions, personal
longings and suppressed desires.
Men are sensitive in strange ways. If a man has built a
camp fire and the last log doesn’t burn, he will take it
personally. And please don’t try to teach men how to do
anything in public. They can learn in private, in public
they have to know. But its fine if they do it to you, you
just have to agree, no buts.
Women are sensitive too in their own way. You forget an
important date, and they will ‘merajuk’. ‘Rajuk’
is one of the few words in the Malay language that cannot
be literally translated. It’s one of those cross-cultural
impossibilities.
It’s not exactly ‘sulking’ as it carries a different connotation,
akin to behaving like a spoilt brat. The style of ‘merajuk’
is more like looking mortally wounded and withdrawn. The
erring one will then show due remorse and proceed to
‘pujuk’ you (coax you to give and forget) and yes, that’s
the other thing, women might forgive but they never forget.
But ladies remember one thing ‘merajuk’ only to those
who love you as the famous Malay proverb says ‘Merajuk
pada yang sayang’. If you were to ‘merajuk’ not
to the one you love, they would possibly tell you to jump
in the lake or well or whichever is nearer. I’m not sure
that this tactic still works in this day and age as some
men see it as emotional blackmail.
If a man says, I’ll call you and if he doesn’t, he didn’t
forget, he did not lose your number, he didn’t even die
and he just didn’t want to call. So save yourself from heartache,
forget him. He’s not worth it. If he does call you in the
future, the best advice would be to reject him and rejection
ladies, is best served cold.
Men have higher body temperature than women. That’s why
some people have told me if your heater goes out or if the
weather is cold, sleep next to a man. Men are like portable
heaters that snore. Women on the other hand, can be cold
and aloof which can be misconstrued as being heartless sometimes.
All men hate to hear “we need to talk about our relationship”.
These 7 words strikes fear in the heart of even the bravest
of men. And the worst possible thing you can say to a guy
when you breakup is “let’s be friends”. How can you? If
you’ve pass the threshold of being more than friends, you
could never be ‘just friends’ can you? So ladies, be fair.
Men in general think that they’re nice guys but some of
them are not. Ask a disgruntled woman and she will give
you a whole list of names. I don’t really know if this is
true of men but I think they are also capable of being hurtful
when they want to.
Have you ever seen men fetching the morning paper that is
thrown on the lawn? Men love to be the first to read the
newspapers in the morning. Not being the first is upsetting
to their psyches. Women read too but at their convenience.
They have better and more important things to do – getting
the kids ready to school, preparing breakfast, getting ready
to go to work and the list goes on.
The list does literally go on and it would be a never ending
story/article. Having said that, there is truth to some
of the things I’ve mentioned but some can still strike a
heated argument.
So women libbers and male chauvinists out there, we might
stand a better chance understanding each other if we just
put our differences aside and see each other as equals rather
than rivals. So let’s just try, shall we?
