Do You Wanna Hug?
 

Do You Wanna Hug?

A hug is also a way to share the good and the bad times

Do You Wanna Hug?

A hug is a positive exchange of energy between two people
 
“A hug transcends all boundaries the moment two souls become one. The gesture is so natural and irrational that it often leaves the beholder joyful and speechless. It also creates a connection that cannot be expressed in words because it transcends even that boundary.”

In some cultures, mostly Asian, hugging may be considered taboo as some regard physical contact between two people as forbidden. But for some cultures, especially the West, it can do wonders to an individual. Thus, it is said to be more powerful than a handshake.

So it’s normal to see even grown men hugging. But, of course, some ‘other’ men find hugging uncomfortable, for fear of the connotation that comes with it... thus, they have this awkward hug, not knowing which direction to go and end up slapping each other on the back...

But have you ever wondered what properties a hug beholds? By giving a hug, one receives another in kind. Some people say a hug can melt a heart of stone, break barriers of hatred and ill-feelings. However, I cannot guarantee that. If a heart has been as hard as stone for so long, even a chisel and hammer would not do it.

According to T. Selva, a motivational speaker on The Art of Happy Living, a hug can do miracles because it has powerful bonding and healing qualities. This is because the energy exchanged creates an electromagnetic flow that can temporarily heal, or at least, bring someone greater understanding.

He goes on to say that generally, a hug is a positive exchange of energy between two people. It provides solace and there is a remedial feeling when you have someone hold you in their arms.

I’m sure you’ve had that warm and fuzzy feeling that seeps through your entire body making you feel good and tingly all over, haven’t you? Yes, some hugs, depending on whom you hug, of course, can be addictive and intoxicating... sigh...

A hug is also a way to share the good and the bad times. Like the time you passed an important exam, or during weddings or funerals, or when your cat died under your bed this morning … you only need someone to give you a hug of understanding, comfort and a shoulder to cry on.

According to Clove and Clive, a hug transcends all boundaries the moment two souls become one. The gesture is so natural and irrational that it often leaves the beholder joyful and speechless. It also creates a connection that cannot be expressed in words because it transcends even that boundary.

A hug is so simple, yet so magical. It is free of charge, yet so priceless. And most importantly it is a gift that represents the heart.

Coming from a family of huggers, I couldn’t agree more. We hug everyone when we meet and when we part. For us, it shows affection and also how  much we care for each other. So this notion that you’re not supposed to hug kids too much for fear of spoiling them is utter nonsense. But then I’m not an expert, am I?

On bad days, when I come back from the office after too much fire fighting, too much work and feeling too tired, after a hot bath I would wind down on the sofa. Then, I’d call my 10-year son and ask him for a hug. He, being a darling, would of course oblige and hug me. But being kids, the hug unfortunately is not for long. Almost in the same breath of time that he hugs me, he would ask me, “Can I go now?”

Of course after a therapeutic hug like that, feeling refreshed, I let him go. Then he walks a few steps away and turns back to me and says, “Are you okay?” That always bring tears to my eyes … tell me if that’s not restorative... uplifting and at the same time strengthening the bond between mother and son!

I need to ask my psychologist friend, what it means from their perspective. But research has shown that touching a premature baby in the incubator ever so often, enhances growth and strength. If touching can do that much, imagine what hugs, bear-hugs, a hug from behind, any hug for that matter, can do for you...

Selva ends by saying, when a hug is done with purity and sincerity of the heart, the touch turns enchanting and removes all aches, pains, sadness, loneliness and, especially, stress. Yes, all of us need a hug once in a while to eliminate our feelings of wretchedness and seclusion. But please, be careful whom you hug...

Purpose and benefits of hugs:
  • As a way of greeting to say ‘hello’ or ‘goodbye’
  • They can hold us up when life gets us down
  • Make us smile instead of frown
  • Bring us closer to each other
  • They can be given for no reason at all
  • They are one of life’s most pleasant things
  • Provide comfort and protection
  • Help in promoting self-esteem
  • Open up new avenues of thought
  • They are a nice way to start the day
  • They are free and cost nothing, but could mean so much to both parties

Courtesy of Clove & Clive.
     
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